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How to Trade Expectations for Appreciation

A Fireside Chat with Tony and Sage Robbins (Part 2)

When you think about the holidays and the emotions you feel, is STRESS near the top of your list? Is your mind full with expectations to meet, and logistics to iron out, like who is hosting, which gifts to buy, and what food to serve? Do you worry about budgets, or politics, or family dynamics?   

All of this “stress” gets in the way of our true enjoyment of the real meaning of the season. We have rules and beliefs about how things are supposed to be or how people are supposed to be. And when they do not meet our expectations, we suffer.  

Listen as Tony and Sage suggest a new approach: To replace expectation with appreciation, to lead with gratitude and thanksgiving instead of worry, fear or anger.  

Most people never decide in advance of an experience the qualities that they are committed to experiencing. They let their past experiences color the present without even being conscious of it. This year, redirect your focus by asking a question like, “What conditions must I create within myself to experience the level of enjoyment I desire this year?” or “What could I focus on and appreciate about this?” DECIDE that despite the unique circumstances that 2020 brings, this holiday season will be an enjoyable experience for you. 

Listen to their second fireside chat now to learn how to make one small, simple shift in your inner world that will not only allow you to enjoy yourself much more, but will also open your heart and anchor your state of being in love and kindness this holiday season so that you can be a blessing to those you love most.   

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About The Fireside Chat Series: In the 1930s and 40s, a time when the country was struggling even more than it is today, we had an amazing leader named FDR. He began doing evening radio programs called “fireside chats,” designed to communicate directly with the American people. 

At that time, 90% of people in the U.S at that time had a radio. Today, 96% of people have a cell phone and nearly all have internet access. Instead of being unified and watching all the same things, and having a collective experience, now we’re all kind of separated. And we can see division in our culture. We desperately need a form of unity, a form of connection, more humanity and more kindness in the world.

Tony and Sage thought to bring back this time-honored tradition of a fireside chat as a means of unity and compassion. We’re entering the winter season, drawing inward into our homes and into ourselves, reflecting on the hardships and blessings alike this unique year has brought. In this three-part series, you will hear them dispel their hopes and dreams for you this holiday season, as well as share some of Tony’s powerful tools and strategies to not only survive the coming months, but to step up and thrive


00:01:05 Welcome Back from Tony and Sage

00:52:00 Today’s Fireside Chat theme 

00:02:36 What’s the purpose of the holiday for Tony and Sage

00:03:14 Down the rabbit hole

00:03:33 “Where focus goes, energy flows”

0:04:08 Reconnecting to the true meaning of the holiday 

00:04:51 Rules and what they mean for us

00:06:00 Tony’s friend 

00:06:26 Sage’s big (not) Italian family 

00:07:00 A lot of our stress is how we’ve been raised

00:08:15 Doublemint gum commercial 

00:09:20 Love doesn’t care 

00:10:00 Gratitude destroys fear 

00:10:30 Sage’s family growing up

00:11:30 Sage’s phone call with a friend 

00:12:37 Steer towards what you do love

00:12:56 A powerful tool from Tony

00:13:28 Tony’s running 

00:15:20 Tony puts a list together 

00:16:00 Tony works with a little boy who struggles with overeating 

00:17:07 Increasing desire

00:17:46 What’s your current thought when you think about the holidays?

00:18:28 Quantifying and Qualifying your holiday 

00:19:02 Sage talks about creating a sanctuary in your home 

00:20:33 Scoring your life 

00:21:00 The holidays can be a chance to rewire yourself 

00:22:09 The power of thank you

00:24:00 An invitation 

00:25:10 Trade your expectation for appreciation 

00:25:27 Sage offers a way to bring ourselves back from stress


00:27:13 Thank you from Tony and Sage

00:27:30 KK unpacks fireside chat number two 

00:30:29 The importance of accountability 

00:31:44 Tony Robbins coaching

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