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Is it time to let go?

Making the difficult decision to end a relationship

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How many times in your life have you set expectations for yourself? Perhaps you believed you would have achieved a number of goals by a certain time. Or maybe you expected that you’d be married by a certain age. Or that your relationship would last a lifetime. While it’s admirable to set goals, and aspire to find love and connection, it’s also dangerous to tie our happiness to our expectations. Because when reality doesn’t meet our expectations, we often find ourselves lost, confused and in pain.

Welcome back to the Tony Robbins Podcast where we are continuing our breakthrough series – taking you to events like Date with Destiny, UPW and Business Mastery, where you’ll have a front row seat to life-changing transformations.

And in this episode, you are going to hear Tony work with Dano. Dano has been with his partner for decades. They’ve built a family and a life together, but they are finding themselves at a crossroad. He’s deeply in love, and struggling to let go, blaming himself for the relationship’s trajectory.

Tony works with Dano to take a new perspective on his relationship, and to learn how to trade his expectations for appreciation. They delve into what it means to be truly masculine in this trying situation and why loving his partner ultimately means letting her go.


[01:10] Episode introduction
[02:20] Refusing to settle for an average relationship
[02:50] Going through a divorce in a beautiful state
[03:15] The core issue
[03:30] The inception of the relationship
[04:15] Incompatibility
[05:00] Letting go vs. transitioning
[05:30] Sexual compatibility is still there
[06:25] He wants more than what she wants
[07:30] Understanding her perspective
[08:50] What an identity means for a man vs. a woman
[10:10] Women are inclined to judge themselves
[10:30] An identity crisis
[11:10] The role of significance in their relationship
[13:15] A great test for all relationships
[14:40] Let go of your stories
[15:30] Marriage means responsibility to this woman
[16:20] Love is not a selfish thing
[16:50] All good things in life grow
[17:10] Growing as a man and stepping into the unknown
[17:20] What’s next is always better
[18:10] Ancient practice of Ho’oponopono
[20:50] Preferences vs. needs

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