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How to reprogram your mind

Taking a more active approach to designing your life

Are you living the life you’ve always wanted to? Or have you settled into the status quo?

Most of us have a vague idea of what we think we deserve. When life veers away from that path we have quietly set for it, we often become frustrated and upset. “Why is this happening?” we wonder. This discontent can be powerful; it can spur us to make change.

But discontent is a double-edged sword. So many of us end up turning our frustration and upset against ourselves, sabotaging any potential success. We start thinking that we deserve better, and we may work a little harder for a few days, but rather than take action and strive for lasting change, we drop right back down to where we think we belong – in our careers, our finances, our relationships, our health, our general sense of well-being.

What if you took active control of your mind and redirected your focus on making your life a masterpiece? What if you reprogram your mind to design a life that gives you fulfillment, joy and passion?

Your mind is the key to success and you have the power to learn how to reprogram your subconscious. If you want to live the life you desire, then it’s time to decide, to commit and to resolve. It’s not what we can do in life that makes a difference – it’s what we will do. And there’s no better time to take back control of your mind and set your sights on something better right now.

Watch how Tony explains how to reprogram your mind to two friends, using basketball as an example.

Do you want to learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind for success in the way Tony describes in the video? Here are the steps you need to take.

Step 1: Decide

The first step you need to take is to gain absolute clarity on what it is you want. Learn how to stop overthinking everything and focus on your goals. What is your desired outcome? What would unlocking an extraordinary life look like to you? Clarity is power. The more thought you put into this, the more detail you lay out, the stronger and more powerful your vision will become. This creates a subconscious mind map, giving your brain the tools necessary to turn that vision into reality.

Want to learn how to reprogram your subconscious mind? Consider an argument with your partner. When in a heated exchange with a loved one, we often lose track of the disagreement itself and focus on being heard – on getting the last word, on winning. You stop watching your tone and being gentle with your partner and begin treating them like an adversary. That’s a quick way to escalate the argument into something much worse. Instead, stop yourself and ask, “Why am I arguing in the first place?” You aren’t fighting to fight; you are disagreeing about something and want a resolution. When you are distracted by winning, you lose track of the actual problem. Once you remember that, you can shift your focus back to resolving the original problem, effectively reprogramming your brain to use its resources and produce that outcome in that moment.

Subconscious reprogramming starts with deciding what you want – right now and in the future – and to focus on it. Give your brain direction. As Tony says, where focus goes, energy flows. What do you want physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually in your business and in your personal life? Make the decision that you are not willing to settle and that you are not willing to live the way you are living right now. Set your sights on what you want and begin reprogramming your brain.

Step 2: Commit

After you decide what you want, the next step of subconscious reprogramming is committing. Rid your mind of fear and self-doubt. How do you do that? By committing to it and letting it drive you.

Fear is one of the biggest traps that keeps people from taking action. We all have fears – fear of rejection, fear of failure, success, pain, the unknown. If you do nothing, that fear will remain exactly where it is, blocking your path. You will not move and you will always live in fear. You might not do any worse, but you also won’t do better. And that fear will always be present in the back of your mind, pushing you away from your goals. The lack of action gives the negativity time to poison your thoughts: “It’s a good thing I didn’t try. I never would have made it.” This fear-based negativity, when allowed to spread through your subconscious mind, will seep into everything you think about yourself, as well as everything you do.

The only way to deal with fear and reprogram your mind is to face it head-on. You must look it in the eye and take action in spite of it. Are you afraid of failure? Look at it this way: Failure is an education. If you do something and fail, you will know what doesn’t work. You’ll be able to take a more educated, informed approach when you try again. You’re better off than where you were before.

Reprogramming your brain means breaking through negative chatter like “I can’t.” Think of it the same way you would build muscle at the gym. At first, it will seem difficult and perhaps even taxing. But if you start small and try it again every day, you will gradually become stronger. And before long, it will become an effortless habit.

Commit to yourself. Commit to overcoming the negativity. Commit to a better life. When you commit fully, cutting off any other possibility, you will push yourself to the next level and demand more of yourself than anyone else could ever expect. And that is the true power of subconscious mind programming.

Step 3: Resolve

Once you have decided on your path and committed fully, take inventory of your situation. What are your current actions getting you? Direct your mind toward assessing what is working and what isn’t. Make the shifts. Resolve is about finding solutions to whatever may come your way.

A critical part of finding resolve and effectively reprogramming your brain is flexibility. Tunnel vision forces limits on you – you will miss out on opportunities and alternative routes that could lead to incredible benefits. Remember, you are never 100% in control. Think about it: has your life gone according to plan? Probably not. The path you take is never a straight line. And that’s why it’s vital to remain flexible along the way – learning from mistakes, embracing failure and using negativity as a driving force for change. As long as you are making progress, you are going in the right direction.

When you reprogram your mind to focus on resolve, you develop the ability to change your approach to problems as required. Not all obstacles, hurdles or circumstances are the same; each poses its own difficulties, and you can meet those difficulties head-on. True power comes from within, and reprogramming your brain conditions you for success. Frustration becomes a gift, because it means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Failure becomes a lesson, counseling you on how to be better in the future. Any roadblock becomes an opportunity for you to pivot and find a new creative solution. That is the power of your mind’s dedication to resolve.

Six tips on how to reprogram your subconscious

1. Adopt empowering beliefs

Limiting beliefs hold us back from what we want in life. They can be based on past results, negative events you’ve experienced or a flawed vision of your future. When you address these beliefs and challenge their accuracy, you can replace them with empowering beliefs to live by. What does this look like? It could be replacing “My parents were divorced so it’s in my genetic code to not have a happy relationship” to “I deserve a healthy relationship with someone I love.” When you change your self-talk, you change your world.

2. Embrace the beauty of uncertainty

We are not in control of life – the only thing we can control is our actions and reactions. When we embrace this concept, we take back our power to shape our existence and reprogram our minds. Let go of the need for certainty and embrace the beauty of uncertainty. When we focus on choosing trust, giving without thinking about what we’re getting in return and living consciously, we can let go and enjoy the journey. 

3. Focus on gratitude

When you choose gratitude and appreciation over criticism and fear, you shine a light on the positive. This rewires your brain to notice more of what you have and less of what you don’t. It also allows you to be curious about the events in your life as you no longer view them with suspicion. You can embrace change and let it in, appreciating that life never stays the same.

4. Watch your environment

When reprogramming your brain for success, you have to limit negative influences in your environment. Your subconscious mind is constantly absorbing information from outside sources and using that information to form beliefs that shape how you think and behave. Negativity from the daily news, toxic people and social media can have a profound effect on your subconscious mind without you even knowing it.

As you work on how to reprogram your mind, remember that proximity is power. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people. Seek out books, videos and music that lifts you up and empowers you. Over time, you will find that your subconscious mind is more positive and encouraging and that negative thoughts have greatly diminished.

5. Visualize

Remember Tony’s video about the basketball players? They learned how to reprogram their minds through visualization. By picturing in their minds the perfect free throw over and over, they were able to program their brains to actually make those shots once they got on the court.

What does your perfect day look like? How do you want your big presentation at work to go? How exactly do you want a first date to go? Pick something you are truly committed to making a reality and spend 10-15 minutes each day visualizing it as if it has already happened. Your subconscious mind will absorb the feelings in your images as if they were real, giving you the inner confidence you need to make them come true.

6. Biohack your subconscious mind with binaural beats

Biohacking is using experimentation and technology to improve your health and wellness. Biohacking can involve red light therapy to increase health, adopting an intermittent fasting plan to trigger weight loss or adding supplements to your diet to supercharge your health. One powerful form of reprogramming your brain through biohacking is harnessing the power of music. Our brainwaves respond differently to various types of music and we can induce certain feelings with the right beats.

Binaural beats involve playing two tones at different frequencies to induce certain states of mind. It’s been proven that our subconscious mind absorbs information better when we are in a relaxed state, so you can use binaural beats to trigger alpha brainwaves.

Reprogramming your brain for happiness and success is an ideal way to work below the surface and remove roadblocks that are holding us back. Want more information on reaching your peak state? Attend Unleash the Power Within at a city near you.

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