Do you feel like giving up?
Life isn’t always sunshine and daisies. Plenty of us have endured hardships – Tony himself grew up poor and disadvantaged. Life can be downright sad, even bleak. Whether you’ve lost a job, ended a relationship or someone close to you has passed away, sometimes it can be hard to believe that “Life happens for you, not to you.”
But when you feel like giving up, what can you do? The answer is, a lot! As Tony Robbins says, “It’s our decisions, not our conditions, that ultimately shape the quality of our lives.” You may feel defeated or frustrated, but you can make the decision to take the first step toward changing your state.
To quote another great leader, Theodore Roosevelt, “Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain [and] difficulty.” The best things in life won’t be handed to you. You need to get back in the game and earn them.
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Why do I feel like giving up?
The first step to overcoming defeat is to determine why you feel this way. You may know the triggering event, but you need to go beyond the specific “thing” that happened and get to the root of the problem – how it made you feel. When you feel like giving up, there are three limiting emotions that could be the cause: “loss,” “less” or “never.”
Loss is a familiar human experience – but that doesn’t make it any easier. Losing someone close to you is one of the hardest things in life. Losing a job can make you feel inadequate and hopeless. And ending a relationship, even when it’s mutual, can leave a huge hole in your life.
Less is a feeling that you’re just not good enough. You didn’t get that raise you were going for or your coworker got a promotion over you. You had a big game and you didn’t beat the competition. But there are always things to be grateful for – and you can always improve, because progress is success.
Never is the worst feeling of them all. If you get turned down for a date, you feel like you’ll never find love. If your business fails, you feel like giving up and going to work a regular 9-to-5 office job. These are limiting beliefs and they only hold you back.
What to do when you feel like giving up
The good news is there are concrete steps you can take to change your state. There is a science of happiness – it’s not all up to fate. You can actually reprogram your mind to achieve your goals, whatever they may be.
1. Change your physiology
How you look equals how you feel. Sounds too easy, right? But resetting your mood can be as simple as standing up straight, throwing your shoulders back and taking deep breaths. Feeling irritated or sad? Smile. Your body can trick your mind – and that’s how you change your state.
Exercise is another proven way to change your state. Science has proven the benefits of exercise again and again, from reducing depression to lowering your risk of dementia. It doesn’t have to be something you dread each day. It’s as simple as walking the dog or doing an at-home yoga video. The best exercise you can get is something you enjoy so that you will keep up your routine and see all the benefits to your mental health.
2. Nourish your body – and your mind
Nourishing your body is about more than looking good. It’s about feeling good – not just about yourself, but about the world. When you don’t nourish your body, you feel it. You have trouble concentrating and you get “hangry.” You have less energy and even everyday tasks make you think, “I feel like giving up and going back to bed.”
The food you eat is your body’s fuel, but it’s also your mind’s fuel. When you feed your body right, it can change your whole mindset. When you have energy, you have vitality, and the ability to achieve your goals. Eating an alkaline diet is a vital step in becoming healthier in both body and mind. It’s all about balancing the acidic foods you eat – like coffee, dairy, sugar and alcohol – with alkaline foods, like leafy green vegetables, whole grains and nuts. Not enough time? Check out NeuroBoost-B12 and BioEnergy Greens™.
3. Practice gratitude
The simple act of giving thanks can make you happier. Studies have found that practicing gratitude reduces depression and also lowers negative emotions like envy and resentment. But adopting an abundance mindset isn’t always easy. We’re all human, and as humans, we tend to get stuck in patterns of thinking that can be hard to overcome.
You can start practicing gratitude with simple morning rituals like incantations or writing in a gratitude journal. Make it a point to look around you or close your eyes and think of all the things you have to be grateful for. Taking the time to give thanks can be transformative – and takes hardly any time at all.
4. Improve your relationships
You are who you surround yourself with – so make sure you’re surrounded by loving, supportive people. Even the most individualistic humans are social animals, and isolation can be another big contributor when you feel like giving up. When you add social media into the mix, you feel even more inadequate and disconnected.
Ask your partner to join your exercise routine, such as going for a walk or a bike ride. No partner? Take up a new hobby where you’ll be part of a group, like dance, a bowling league or even cooking classes. Look at your existing relationships, too. It can be hard to cut toxic people out of your life, but as you make new friends, it will get easier to say goodbye to relationships that are bringing you down.
It takes work to build your inner strength and overcome hardships, but always remember,
“Success and failure are not overnight experiences. It’s the small decisions along the way that cause people to fail or succeed.” You can change the path you’re on and start achieving again. The power is yours.
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